Is it just me or is there a pattern here...

First watch all three videos

Victoria Jackson





Watch Joel Osteen's own here


Kirk Cameron




It bothers me whenever I see American journalists get all defensive when Christians say they feel being gay is a sin. The Bible says it is clearly so if they believe so let them be. Everyone cannot just warm up to the idea of two guys or two ladies being together. I am gay. Not denying it but I cannot fully accept my sexuality. At least not yet. I am not convinced this is GOD'S plan for my life. I get so annoyed when I read the blogs and people get angry when Popular Christians air their views against homosexuality. GLAAD is so annoying too. It seems that the Gay community in the US wants to force down their views down everyone's throat.

The most annoying one was the interview with Victoria Jackson. The interviewer did not even want her to air her views on the issues. That is not jouranlism

Anyways, what do I know. All I know is the bible doesn't endorse homosexuality and till then, I will keep praying for redemption

His name is Terrell Carter and I am IN LOVE with him

I am sure you guys remember Mr. Carter from his work with Tyler Perry and how his boyfriend outed him even though he denies it. Well, I don't really care. I have found him and I am in love. Like TOTALLY!

Please Terrell. come to me, let me give you some good loving.

Lawd!


Just one night only.....

New anti-gay law; Increased Hypocrisy

Hello blogville,

It has been a while since I last put up a post. I have been busy with work but thank God for the Christmas season at least I have some time to myself.  I have a lot to say but Nigeria is not safe anymore.

A few weeks ago, the senate passed a bill saying any gay Nigerian that gets married will go to jail for 14 years.

Seriously? What is that supposed to do?

I do not see myself getting married to any guy. EVER!!! But for you to criminalize it when there are other issues that are seriously plaguing the fucked up country??? That's messed up!

You know what makes it worse. I was talking to a supposed friend who doesn't know I am gay. The guy just went on and on about how being gay was against our values as Nigerian and how the bill is right. He put it on Facebook, Twitter and even on his Blackberry Messenger; praising the Nigerian senate for "doing something right for once".

Do you know the funny thing?

The guy had no idea I knew he was fucking my friend. Yes. The guy is gay to the bone. He even likes to cuddle after sex. Some Nigerians have started to make up silly jokes about the law saying things like "Omo if dey see us they hang out we go get 14 years oh"... how is that funny? 

You guys know my stand. I don't think I was born gay but that is my opinion. No one should rub their beliefs and value system in everyone's face. There are non-Christians in Nigeria and they can choose to do what they wanna. 

But what can I do? I am just some random guy who hates his job and badly wants to have sex with his boss.

But that is gist for another day.

I have a work dinner to get ready. I hope my boss likes what I'll wear.

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Update: New boyfriend

Let me start by apologizing for being away for so long. I was caught up with work stuff but I am back. I think. Nothing new has been going on with me though. The only new thing is now I have a new boyfriend. He is awesome, sweet, a hard worker and he laughs at my boring joke. I am so thankful

I'll be back with more juicy stories soon...

Love you all :)

I am thinking of coming out...

I have been studying the lives of successful gay folk especially Wanda Skyes. Lance Bass and Don Lemons and I feel like coming out. I have been asking myself what if I get to heaven and God says he actually made me like this. I don't want to regret it.

But at the same time, I being gay was OK, He would have said it in His word, I mean it won't cost him anything to just give a go ahead in scripture.

It sucks. I know it but what can I do. I still have to believe His word as the final authority and His word says no...

So there goes my fantasy and dream of coming out...

Relationship hitting the rocks???

Hi everyone,

I am sorry it has been a while but I have been going through a lot personally. Things are really going slow for my business and my boyfriend and I are having serious issues. It is almost like I can see us breaking up already. Even though a part of me has been praying for the day the relationship will end, I am sad that it is going to happen. The reason I am scared of relationships mainly is because I know being in a relationship will hinder my redemption process and I honestly don't want anything hindering it.

Wish I could chat more but I have a meeting in a bit. Please nominate me for the Nigerian Blog Awards especially for the newbie award. It will mean a lot. Click here to nominate

Peace

Have you nominated me?

The Nigerian Blog Awards have begun and I have one question for you.

Have you nominated me???

You know I deserve to be in a category even if it is the one for new bloggers. So guys. What is it going to be? Click here to nominate me

Thanks

Gay Memories. Part 2

As a self-employed young adult, there are times when business becomes very slow and you begin to consider options in making quick cash. Sleeping with other rich men to make quick cash was never an option for me until I got broke and I decided to try it. I had spoken to one of my friends and he was like he would not mind doing anything to make some extra cash. And the weird thing is I actually agreed with him. Therefore, when I could not take the pressure again I called up one of my friends and asked him to hook me up with a rich older man that I could actually sleep with to make some cash.

My friend introduced me to Chike (not his real name). Chike was in his late forties and worked in a major organisation in Lagos. I met him over the weekend in his house and trust me; I did not want to go. I had so many doubts and the guy sounded very weird. He kept calling me his baby girl and I was like WTF! I am a guy you might as well call me what I am. If you really want a baby girl, go and get yourself a girl.

I did not let that get me down. My eye was on the price and my plan was to do the do and then make my request. I get to his house and he hugs me for like 10 mins. I do not even hug my boyfriend for that long. He leads me to his living room and I take my seat. He goes into his room to get the room in order so we can actually do the main thing. I kept thinking to myself how I was making a huge mistake. My boyfriend had even told me not to do anything stupid because I wanted to make quick cash but I ignored all he had to say. I had to get this cash so when he came back to the living room; I faked a smile and pretended as if I was cool with the whole arrangement. My insides were tearing open, I mean what I was doing was wrong.

We get to the room and he starts to kiss me and the guy is like the WORST kisser ever. It was as if he was trying to get his tongue down my throat. In addition, he kept scratching my back and said he was trying to “romance” me. At that moment, I hated myself. The guy could not even get me to have an erection and he knew something was wrong and he kept saying “Baby girl, what’s wrong?” SERIOUSLY? It was as if I was some guy in some twisted old man’s fantasy. After a few tries, he got angry and pulled away. I did not want the day to go to waste so I told him that he should just do the main action and he says ok and he moves on to me. I tell him to go and get the condom and he does not have sex with a condom. I felt like strangling him. I told him he should just forget it. He kept begging and kept calling me baby girl. I told him I cannot have unsafe sex and he got angry and said I should just help him masturbate. I tried that too and he started saying things like “baby girl”,  “Would you marry me?”, “Would you carry my baby”… CAN YOU IMAGINE?

In conclusion, I let him be. He hated the sex. I hated it too. He said, I seemed distant and that what was on my mind. I told him nothing. I left the house, annoyed at myself for going through that ordeal. I realized that it was God’s way of telling me that people may sleep around for money but as for me, I cannot do that. I learnt that I am still trying to fee myself from the shackles that bind me and adding “commercial sex worker” to the list just does not cut it.

Chike called one time again. I did not even bother answering.

15 WAYS YOU CAN TELL IF YOUR MAN IS GAY

 1.    He is a huge fan of Beyonce, Mariah Carey, Rihanna or Lady Gaga. I am not saying that straight guys don’t listen to their music but having a weird obsession over them is just… GAY. I would know I am a huge Beyonce and Mariah fan

2.    If he cannot do without his skinny jeans, something is most definitely up. Straight guys experiment with clothes. They change looks. They can go from skinnies to straight jeans and sometimes shorts. Gay guys are obsessed with skinny jeans of different colours. They also love the ones that bring out their ass so it could be tighter than normal.

3.    If his contacts are not transparent or brown, something is up. Gay Nigerian guys are known for using blue, green or purple contacts. Some of them even use it to match their clothes.

4.    If he is in love with chic flicks, he is gay. It is hard to find straight guys who are die-hard fans of chic flicks. So is his favourite movies are Mean Girls or She’s all that or his favourite show is Gossip Girl or 90210. You have to watch your back.

5.    If he is vain and so into himself, he is gay or on a path to being gay. Ask yourself a simple question why will he spend an hour in the bathroom? He is either giving himself body therapy or he is masturbating. They are both not good

6.    He has more male friends on facebook. Yes. If he has more male friends on facebook, you better watch out.

7.    If he has many “boys only weekends”. He has something to hide. Especially when these weekends are not in a sports bar.

8.    If he uses words like “fierce”, “glam” or “fab” he has something to hide. A straight guy would rarely use those words.

9.    If his favourite channel is E or The Style Network. I think that speaks for itself. Especially, when he loves Holly’s World and Keeping up with the Kadarshians.

10.    If he is too homophobic. When he uses a lot of homophobic words and is very hateful towards the LGBT community. He is probably struggling with his own sexuality

11.    If he has many pink things. I think that speaks for itself too.

12.    If he knows how to “strike a pose” when taking a picture.

13.    If he acts very “motherly” amongst his friends; Always cooking for them, looking out for where they might be, chastising them when they do wrong etc.

14.    If he stares a lot at guys.

15.    If he uses the term #nohomo a lot. What many people have failed to realise is that #nohomo tells us that you are not sure of your sexuality. It is as though you are trying to convince the world that you are heterosexual.

These are 15 ways you can tell if your man is gay or on the down low. They are not set in stone thought and not all men that have one or two or three of these characteristics are gay even though I feel they have. If you boyfriend has five or more of these characteristics, check him out. He just might be. Funny thing is if you are lucky and he is like me, you will NEVER find out because I do not do any of the above things mentioned. Even my said love for Beyonce, is a secret no one knows about. Remember it is not my intention to break up a happy home. Just don’t live in denial.

Hope you have been enlightened and please follow me on twitter @NigerianOnDaDL

Peace

Gay Memories. Part 1

Today was funny. I was watching an episode of my favorite series and I remembered this very funny incident that happened.

When I just started working, I was seeing this guy. Let us call him, Tom. He was cool, friendly and a good kisser but Tom freaked me out when he asked me to marry him.

Can you imagine?

First, we are in Nigeria so that makes it impossible. Second, marriage is not an institution for two guys. If it was that way the bible would have said therefore a man will leave his folks and cling to his wife or his husband. I am just paraphrasing.

Tom is cool now. We just friends. I am sure if I bring up the story of how he proposed he would laugh his head out.

Stay locked on here for part 2 of Gay Memories.


Peace